our trip to the hotel, faith's 2nd birthday, and other pics

My 5 year old, washing dishes
Building forts in the kitchen....
The paniel was one of the first to arrive at faith's birthday!
Nin and chris in love as usual
Time to blow out the candles!
Opening a ton of gifts! this is me very pregnant, officially in 6 days I will have completed 9 full months of pregnancy!
Outside play
Faith can barely bend at the waist
At the sheraton hotel for our family christmas. my big lug of a nephew!! cutest thing ever. I ask god everyday for a baby as good as him!
My little fish....faith is the fishiest of them all!
Noah, being noah!
Time for a hot soak, sorry, no preggy pictures.

All mothers, need your labor stories!!!

I need to ask the ladies of their experiences with pre birth/labor.

I have never went into labor on my own. Becuase of what happened with caleb, the doctors always induced me early to insure that the same thing wouldn't happen again.
Caleb: emerg csection
Noah: 48 hours of labor 24 of really hard labor (almost csection) They induced me 10 days early
Isaiah: 18 hours of labor 6 really hard hours. induced 7 days early
Faith: induced 5 days early....basically showed up, pushed her out, went home....smiling and making lasagna.

I didn't experience Braxton Hicks contractions until Faith (#4)
This one, I've felt them since the 5th month.

This is my experience now....

I am 38 weeks. 14 days till I am due. And for the last week, I've really been experiencing some action down there.
2 days ago, my braxtons were 3 mintues apart for 2 hours! they never did get stronger and I finally fell asleep at 2 am, knowing that if it were real labor, the contractions would wake me up again.
Over the last week, she has been getting increasingly lower and lower, to the point of much pain and tonight, I was giving out little yelps becuase of the intense pressure and pain. I was sure she was pushing enough to break my water! that's how hard and low she is! I've never had this before. I know what it feels like to feel the baby move through the canal. this is what it feels like only a lesser degree of course. but the same sensation.

Has anyone had this happen?
Does this mean labor could be close?
Is my baby okay?
Please share your stories!

Praise report!

I had butterflies yesterday, as I went up to the assement ward at RUH. Emptied my bladder, just in case they had to do their own manipulating of the baby. They showed me into the room and there were 3 really nice doctors there. One on stand by for emergency, one in training and one in charge. They were all so good. Of course I've been in the birthing room with my sister and one of my friends a couple of times with a total of 8 births I've had and witnessed! So I knew on of them that delivered an old friend.
They all poked around to see if they could "out of their expertise" tell which was the head and which was the bum. They asked me if I thought I felt it turn on my own at some point. And I told them of my experience late Monday night:
Laying in bed, starting to contract, the baby took 10 minutes to turn, but that's when it all happened. it was the most intense movement! I said to Joe, "I think she just turned around!" I even phoned my sister at 11:15 pm and told her. But of course I had my doubts. I just wanted to prepare myself for the worst.
Two out of the 3 docs said she was still breech. They asked me, and I said she was head down. Well, I was right! She is ready to go, I'm SOOOOOOOOOO excited to birth this baby. bring it on! (complete with an epidural please!LOL)
We set up the crib yesterday, got some clothes ready, I'm feeling 100 times better! thank you so much for praying everyone.
Joe and I were sitting in admitting (by the main cafeteria) and feeling very odd. This was the first time that we were back at the hospital since Caleb's sickness and death. Staring at the main mall and glancing up at the 3rd floor where he last was......I started to talk to God.

You brought us here. To this very place.
We are pregnant because of You
The baby is breech because of You
we are pregnant AT THIS TIME becuase of You
Caleb's life ended at THAT TIME because of You
We are sitting here gazing into this hospital with these happenings, because of You.
What is the significance of the timing?
Why did you choose to have us bring death and life in a span of 4 months in this place?
I know you are not a God of chance.

I believe that as time unfolds, more of our small puzzle will be revealed. There is meaning in the timing of this baby and the death of our first born....

TIRED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

k, that really gets my goat! I wasn't even given a choice to switch to new blogger, they just MADE me do it! I couldn't log in without switching. that's just dumb. not to mention that I have my hubby's profile!! stupid

anyway, these are my thoughts and feelings today....it's a little depressing, but that's just what they are.

I am super tired all of a sudden. the last couple of weeks, I've just been slowing down like a wind up toy that's losing it's juice. I look around at all that needs to get done and know my energy levels, and wonder how it will get done. I push myself to the limits most days, laundry, school (as much as I can mentally take right now), cooking, cleaning, all the appointments, the reno's are mostly done, but there's all these rooms not in order. It's like half of our family has moved and the closets aren't built so I can't put things away....

The baby's room got a first coat of paint this morning. Faith somehow got into the room, into the wet paint tray and got paint all over the carpet!! it's yellow paint and dark berber!!! Have a crib, not set up, have clothes, not washed, have no dresser for the clothes.

This is where I wonder, how will I ever handle 4 active children! I'm so tired, I can barely handle the ones I have! It's funny, I've had 4 before. I was GOING to have 5!! One of them handicapped. Maybe God knew my limit. I hate feeling like this because I know in my head that this tiredness is just a season, but when I can't get through my days barely, I just think I won't be able to raise 4 spiritually healthy children...

I know I should cut myself some slack, but I just wish I could get done what needs to get done. I feel bad for Joe, he does everything! He goes to work, comes home and works every spare minute on things I can't do. He's so good. He's so good to me. I try to be faithful at the laundry, meals and basic tidyness, with the help of my other kids (and they are a great help...i really couldn't do it without them!) but I can't go beyond that. Today, Joe went to work without gitch on!! That has never happened! He had no clean underwear! Poor guy. I think I've done so well with the laundry in the last few years. It all gets folded and put away usually mostly on the same day. I'm talking like 6 or 7 loads! (I like to do it less often and more of it than less of it, more often)

everywhere I look, there is mess, stuff to be put away, stuff to be organized, books to read, things to plan, all in the midst of trying to spend quality time with my kids, teach them patience, self control, discipline, diligence, maturity, respect....all the while, I feel I'm struggling in these areas right now. I take raising them right VERY VERY SERIOUSLY. and when I'm not on top of teaching them, training them, I feel so out of order, yucky.

This really is a rant post. sorry guys.
I'm sure I'll cheer up soon. Maybe after tomorrow, when I know what's going on with the baby. Tomorrow is the scheduled ECV. Please pray as the Lords leads. Mostly for peace for Joe and I.....okay, okay, peace for mostly me! LOL

Thanks for listening to my rant

My journey with FEAR

So much fear....hidden.....I didn't see it....till the faithful God whom I serve loves me so much that He wanted to heal me!

Last Friday: Our family spends "christmas at the hotel" every year. We waterslide all day and eat good food. It's been a family tradition for about 5 or 6 years now.
Struggle: Caleb was missing this year. I packed up my kids and suitcases without my oldest son there. Spent the weekend without his presence. Caleb always spent his time soaking in the hot tub with jets on his back and cuddling with all of us. In water, Caleb wasn't heavy at all, so it was nice to hold him and cuddle his 9 year old bigness in a hot tub. I didn't have a chance to cry.

Monday: Was Caleb's birthday. I took the kids to the fun factory so that their lives could carry on and I didn't have to sit at home and mope. The carpet guys came and installed all our carpet, so the family was super excited, I wasn't really. I missed Caleb, he was missing the "moving on of our lives" I didn't get a chance to cry.

Thursday: Doctor's appointment. Was told that the baby is still breech. Talked about a c-section. Drove home totally stressed and overwhelmed. Still didn't have a chance to cry.
Didn't sleep a wink that night.
Friday: Homeschool convention. Alot of walking and sitting, thinking, filling up my brains to the hilt! Looking at countless books, spending alot of money.....By the time it was 9 pm and the convention was closing for the night, I sat down and was in overload. I was starting to have pains in my womb. Pinching ones that were kinda scary. Joe graciously went to get the van and told me that he was going to "baby me" when we got home. While he was gone, I just sat there, praying. Asking God why I was wound up tight like a screw. He started to flash Caleb's birth through my head....

Like a movie replaying, I sat there fighting the tears at first, but then couldn't stop them. Rememebering the trauma of Caleb's birth....

Went to hospital for a routine non stress test to have the doctors find that Caleb was in trouble. They broke my water to find much meconium and Caleb was in big trouble! From that moment on, they RAN with me on the bed down to the operating room...Joe was left behind. I was all alone. Before I could blink, the doctor told me to count backwards from 10 and put a mask over my face. At that moment, I felt the scalpel run through my belly and across....then I was out.


I woke up, drugged on morphine to only look at a poleriod photo of my son, down in the NICU. The picture showed only tubes. I couldn't barely see a human there.
The movie ran on in my head, the time I first got to hold him (he was nearly a week old before I could even hold my son!) The time the doctors told us he would never walk or talk. His surgery for his gastrostomy tube at 4 months of age. The time I "stole Caleb" from the hospital and locked myself in a room becuase everyone was trying to convince us to put Caleb in a home. I sat in that room rocking him, crying, wondering why no one wanted him.

By the time Joe got back with the van, I was a mess. I then realized why I was so darn terrified to have another C-section! I ran to the bathroom in tears (infront of all the homeschoolers) locked myself in a stall and cried and cried and sobbed and sobbed....

I said to God: "God, I want to trust you. I know you love me. I know you take care of me. My fear overwhelms me. Help me overcome my fear. Heal me heal me......I give this to you in words, still terrified, trusting that you will answer."

Sunday church: the message was on fear! whatda know!!!
I was standing at the front, talking to God, telling him the same things, waiting in anticipation. Wanda, Lani and my sis, came around me and started to pray. God's spirit came and just started to heal, minister, speak and love.
I believe and recieve that I have been delievered from fear that day. God spoke many things to my heart yesterday. Even gave me the name of the new baby.
He put this baby breech for a reason. To restore me. to heal me and to love me. I thank him so much for that.
The postion of the baby is in his hands. the birth and timing of this baby is in his hands.....the health of this baby is in his hands. But one thing that I needed to hear from him was that HE WANTS HEALTH FOR US.

So, I carry on the journey, clinging as best I can to the Lord. Knowing I will be safe. He is good. He is my God and my daddy. He is all powerful and the almighty. He is Holy and righteous. He is faithful and just. In Him I put my trust.

waves

another wave of grief comes over me. Caleb's would have been 10th birthday just past on Monday... I took my kids on the day to the fun factory so that they could run around and be happy. I knew I didn't have the mental energy or ability to do any school or help them to not be bored. My awesome sister came with me that day and spent the day with me.
I told her that I just wanted to stay in bed and cry, but "life goes on". Well, I haven't even had a chance to be sad (even though I totally am) the carpet was installed on Monday, Joe needed to work, the baby is coming in 3 weeks and we don't even have a home ready yet for her. We have furniture, books, boxes and all sorts of things being stored in every part of the city. Leon's, canadian tire, my parents, my sister, a storage bay on 8th street all have some of our things. I feel so usless being that I can't lift anything of weight, help Joe with all the work that he's had to do.....

Last night, we somewhat moved Noah to his new room...
I would appreciate some prayer in this time. I never really know when a wave is coming, or how long it lasts. But i do know that I am sad, missing him and feel all out of whack without him. It's so hard, becuase I feel bad that I'm not there for the other kids. We started school today, when I just decided that I'd better stop and take care of myself, before I yell at them for no reason....
In the last couple of weeks, my sleeping isn't the greatest. I'm up with the heartburn and hurting, numb legs from the extra weight. I have to keep flipping over so my legs don't ache, but they do anyway....I need some sleep.
what a contrast from the last post heh???
God help me....

His faithfulness

Trusting God.....
Following God....
Giving up our rights....

What does all this mean???

I am getting a clearer and clearer picture of this all the time. Alot of people are angry with God, mad at him for the way life turned out. People blame God. He's easy to blame, after all, isn't He the one "in control"??

Following Jesus is never a piece of cake. Once we become christians, our lives don't suddenly go all perfect. We don't all of a sudden get everything we want.

It isn't "if the storm comes"
It's WHEN the storm comes

It isn't "if you have trials"
it's WHEN you have trials....

God wants His children to be solid on the rock, so that WHEN the storm blows in, you will stand firm.

Noah prayed for Caleb to be healed. Caleb went to heaven instead
Noah prayed for a brother, but God is giving him yet another sister.
My friend (who isn't a christian) said to me today that she's concered that this is probably damaging his faith.
Hmmm, I told her that this is the perfect lesson for Him to learn of God's wisdom and infinite goodness. The sooner you can understand and grasp this, the sooner can know God's unfailing love and peace. The bible says that God's ways are higher than our ways, that His knowledge is too lofty for us to attain. it's too great for us to even begin to wrap our heads around it. There are 2 truths that we tell our kids over and over. especially after the death our our 9 year old this year....
God is always RIGHT
God is always GOOD
It's neat to see Noah learn these things. If he were to always get his prayers answered he would never learn the truth of these things. And neither would the rest of us.

My baby is breech....again....I had a feeling.
I lay in bed at night and lay down over and over my heart.
I AM afraid of having another handicapped child.
I AM afraid that I will have to have another C section (if this baby doesn't turn around)

But.....I know deep down, I really really do, that He is good and He is right. That His plans are to prosper us and not to harm us. And that NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, I WILL HOLD FAST TO THESE TRUTHS! I will declare that He is God, He is worthy, despite my fears, worries....He knows my heart. He can see that I really do trust him.
If this baby is not healthy, will I sink into the sand?

God's faithfulness is an amazing, supernatural thing! No one can explain how someone can have a severely disabled child with a million hardships, and have them loose that child in their 10th year of marriage and still declare HE IS WORTHY. Flesh doesn't do that. Praise God for grace. If He can carry us through that, He can carry us through anything!

So, I sit here, mixed with fleshy, godly emotions on carrying this fragile little life in my belly....
wondering how the next few weeks will unfold.....
I don't know......
I have no idea.....
But I do know....
that I can rest in His faithfulness.
(Brian Doerkson's song: Your faithfulness has been my song in this season)

The life of a stay at home homeschooling mom

I have exactly 26 minutes before Isaiah's piano practise starts.....


I have been reading this awesome book lent to me by "flowerlady" . It's called 'Home by Choice'. She was right, it has been very encouraging to me. There is such a battle for the mommy's these days. The media called it the "mommy wars" in the nineties. The well educated, ambitious moms were off to pursue their careers, while the women who were less fortunate had no choice, no ambitions, no goals, no joie de vie to leave the home. They were the ones that were usually unfulfilled, unhappy and depressed having to change poopy bums, make kraft dinner and sing ABC's with little people...
Not me. Even before I started this book (which was only a few days ago) I have been in such awe with my calling. I love my kids! I love that they are little people to talk with, share, grow and love with. I love watching how they learn, love eachother, and get to know God. I'm at a place where I actually crave to be with them. If I'm out shopping, or with family, at appoinments, I just want to go home so we can paint, read, listen to "jungle boogie"!! great CD by the way! LOL
I can't imagine missing these moments in their lives. When Noah plays his piano and glows after a song well done. When Isaiah puts her words together and reads, she gets so excited. When Faith (not yet 2) puts her laundry away, throws her diapers in the garbage without being told, helps wash the table after meals....it's priceless and I'm so grateful that God has blessed me to stay home!
I am not depressed, unfullfilled, or bored. I do not feel that there is some bigger greater life waiting out there for me. This is it! this is where I want to be. I see fruit in my kids everyday and I wouldn't miss that for the world!!
I want to make it very clear that this is NOT an attack on any working moms or anyone else for that matter. This is my story, for my home. So if you work, please, don't feel judged by me. I know that every family and circumstance is different. These are just our own personal convictions.
Noah and I are making our first lap book on wolves this week. Click here to find out what a lap book is. I'm very excited.
Well, I have 9 minutes left to gather my thoughts and get ready for an afternoon with my best friends. The little ones I disciple....

no time

no time....these days.
I have no time to blog. such a busy season for us.
that's it. gotta go cook for my kiddies again.
bath day
laundry day
school day
planning day
basement work day

when is the rest???

I will admit that even through the busy, I have a secret place. I need to go there a bit more often, but I have been getting there during the week. It's with my God and there is always peace and rest there.....

The pics are finally here!!!!

Christmas at my auntie's house....boxing day

I can't see the difference, can you see the difference???
Best sisters!
Take a stab as to why nin and I used to call her "granny with the cracks"....we still do!
My sister's wrist splint. Continue praying as the Lord leads
My uncle John needs constant reminding that he's 40!!!!!!!!!!
My son got a game boy.....sigh.....
New years eve!!! Uncle John bought fire works again. these ones, you had to hold! super fun!
I screamed the whole time.
The greatest babysitter in the whole world. She does crafts, cleans more than she needs to, and plays games with them....and not just wacthes TV and talk on the phone, (like I used to)
Faithfulness and I watching the fireworks.
Pretty good for our first homemade from scratch gingerbread house heh????
My white tree....I'm starting to feel alittle out of place, since it's still up, and still don't want to take it down. But people are reminding me that it's over!! it's just so beautiful.....
Our new school schedule, working well, having fun....this is only till noon, but it goes ALL the way down to bed. I can follow it quite rigidly up till 5 pm.
Color of our bathroom
Our new banister
color of our family room
The best for last.....color of Noah's new room!! slime green and baby blue!

Do not be decieved

God cannot be mocked
A man reaps what he sows. If he sows into the sinful nature, he will reap destruction
If he sows into the spirit, he will reap eternal life.

I had a dream last night. I had slept with a native man. From conception to birth is 9 months. So logically, if you truly did commit adultery, you would have 9 months to deal with it, get ready, repent, make right....but you may still reap a child that is not your husbands 9 months later...
In my dream I sowed into sin and immediately was faced with the concequences. I was in labor with Joe by my side, I realized that this may not be his baby! I had to confess it to him. I was so broken with the thought of having one of my children not joe's. the consequences of having a blended family can be very complicating....
At this point, I was reaping what I had sown.

I talked to God about this dream this morning. I could hear his spirit speaking to me about choices. Today, He led me to Galatians 9:6. DO NOT BE DECIEVED, GOD CANNOT BE MOCKED, A MAN WILL REAP WHAT HE SOWS.

There is no way around this. This truth, this part of God that speaks justice, love and discipline, is very comforting. It goes both ways. Good seed, bad seed. Sowing sparingly, sowing generously. Sowing cheerfully, sowing reluctantly. Sowing compulsivly, sowing with God's wisdom.
What does God want us to not be decieved about? That God cannot be mocked. You cannot live a secret life of sin and expect God be glorified. You will be humbled, your seed will bear ugly fruit. God will remain true and you will be a liar!
Satan wants us to think that when we sin, we will not reap anything. Or if he can't get that one past us, he'll try to tell you that the consequence is so far down the road that you may be able to steer clear, or fix it later...he'll tell you that you still have time before it gets too bad.

I got up this morning and Joe has been leading our kids in devotions since school started. He sat down and said, "okay kids, today we are going to learn that we reap what we sow!"
HMMMM....I love God's timing. I love how God does that.
For me, a huge trial hit. My son died. Grieving was now the road set before me. It's been super bumpy, hard and confusing. But this, I'm realizing doesn't need to be so. Grief does not mean your life turns into a big ball of sin. A ball of uncontrolled anger. A ball of eating out the fridge because "I'm grieving"
I have been struggling with giving into sin (emotional eating, anger, resentment, gossip, negative thoughts, expectations on certain people....)
A spiritual mother once came to me in tears last year to confront my gossip tendencies. She cried out of love that she didn't want me to reap what I'm sowing. But she knew that I would.

God has given me ALL grace to do All things at ALL times to do EVERY good work.
Do I believe that?
I do. I really do. But if I don't act on this abundance of free grace, then it is like I do not believe.
God has been faithful to pull me out of this muddy pit. I'm getting the big cleaning. And I'm forever grateful for the God that I serve. His love endures forever. It is unfailing. It's full of justice, discipline and the greatest desire for me to mature into the likeness of his son. A preacher said last week that He wants his son to get married. He needs to make me spotless, pure and holy....and I want to do that for Him. it's the least that I can do.

song in my heart today

You are all I need when I'm surrounded...
You are all I need when I'm by myself...
Fill me when I'm empty...
there is no one else...
You are all I need...

in my heart Psalm 139:6 continues to echo
Your Knowledge oh Lord is too WONDERFUL for me
too lofty for me to attain....

God knows all. While I'm trying to put words to my thoughts, God knows the whole heart-COMPLETELY.
I don't need to know why. I shouldn't know why. it's WAY higher than my humaness to understand. Trusting God is a walk by faith and not by sight thing. By faith, I want my walk to model this trust.
Death
Life
Sin
Past
Future
Money
Children
Family
Destiny......
God knows. And I can rest in that. I can trust that by following him and not always needing to know why is the walk he's called me to.

He is all I need

Still no pics......but they are coming

Even tho we've only had ONE day of school, I was very happy and relieved to start our routine again. It went really well.
I even took some pictures of our schedule on our wall to show you, but I can't get the pics off the card to the computer....agggghhhh, technology!
I had a pic of our tree, the new colors going up in our basement.....

Ryan is downstairs AGAIN, helping us....he is such a good friend. painting with Joe. I sooooo want to help and go down there, but I guess in this regard I feel stuck upstairs with the kids while Joe gets to have all the fun. Of course, when they were all doing hard labor, I was more than happy to be cooking, cleaning and taking care of the kids upstairs. It's just all the fun colors are going up and I just can't leave them upstairs unattended for an hour or more.

I will have pics soon.
By the way, my new favorite movie is "cinderella man" with russell crowe.
It's not the boxing story that gets me. It's their marriage. It's how much respect she shows him, how much love he shows her. It takes place in the great depression and it challenges me to be grateful, and to be there for Joe no matter what. Our men thrive on us rooting them on, believeing in them, dreaming with them.....One line in the movie, she says to him, "you are the champion of my heart" That is my new thing that I've been saying in my spirit and in my heart to him.

Sorry for the lack of pics these days

I hope people still come read here even tho it's pretty much just text, no pics, no real color....

Today we saw happy feet. stuuuuupid. written by enviromentalists, made to make us feel guilty for eating fish and with major sex appeal for our young children. booo
read the reviews, but somehow missed that it would be bad...

tomorrow is our first day back at our homeschool! I'm very excited. I feel washed by God to start fresh and feel carried by God to make it through. He has restored my passion for home teaching and for thriving with my kids! I have redone my schedule to fit our new lives. Caleb is still on our schedule, I just couldn't take him off. But the rest of our blocks are redone.

I'm sad that the holidays are over already. mostly that I love the atmosphere of my white christmas tree and I don't want to take it down. I love sitting in my living room, sipping chamomile tea with my new addiction...glade scented candles. (those ones that turn into oil and fill the room with a beautiful aroma)

I have 7 or 8 weeks left until baby. Nesting is still always there, and I know my home isn't ready for our baby yet. I like to be ready by this time. crib up, clothes put in drawers....even tho babe sleeps with me for 4 months, it's funny that I want the crib up. I'm so thankful to my sis and bro that we can still use jonah's old crib.

Does anyone have a baby gate that they'd like to sell? we need one for our homeschool. Faith, bless her heart, loves to "get right in there" when the others are trying to work. Any homeschoolers out there with any ideas on what to do with toddlers while teaching?
Joe works evenings, so I have officially put him on the schedule while he's home in the mornings to take care of faith for some chunks of time so I can do my teaching. other than that, I have a couple of short "play dates" with each of her siblings and a trip in the tub to keep her occupied and happy.

So, I'm off to finish tweeking all what I need to do tomorrow. I guess public schooled kids are still off this week, but I just wanna get started since they've missed enough.

blessings.

christmas update

Christmas is over.....phew......

It was a good christmas, hard, sad, but good. im glad it's over tho. 5 days of running around with sick kids was not the funnest part. Being with family, celebrating all that we do have, laughing, those were the good moments.

At one point, there was a present under the tree for Caleb that my mom forgot to rip last years tags off. Had a big cry about that. Joe and I are wrestling and trying to walk down this path together, it's been hard for us. Being that we are different parts of the path at the same time. I'm so thankful I have him. He's really the only one that knows what it was really like to take care of Caleb, to live with him, to know the hardships of that road. The other night, we came together and realized how importnant it is to lean on eachother. I have had my sister, my mom, and others to walk with, but I've realized that Joe is the one....Not that I don't need my sis or mom, but Joe is my other half, the one God gave me to walk through life with.

I feel bad for Joe, I think people don't realize it, but it seems that he hasn't been "allowed" to grieve. His dad in particular, models the attitude,'just carry on, move on" and becuase joe's a man, there's less room for him to heal, cry, just be.

That's a very short update of the holidays.
can't wait for new years. im very excited about that.

sung to the 12 days of christmas

On the first day of homeschool my neighbor said to me, “Can you homeschool legally?”

On the second day of homeschool my neighbor said to me, “Are they socialized, can you homeschool legally?”

On the third day of homeschool my neighbor said to me, “Do you give them tests, are they socialized, can you homeschool legally?”

On the fourth day of homeschool my neighbor said to me, “What about P.E., do you give them tests, are they socialized, can you homeschool legally?”

On the fifth day of homeschool my neighbor said to me, “YOU ARE SO STRANGE! What about P.E., do you give them tests, are they socialized, can you homeschool legally?”

On the sixth day of homeschool my neighbor said to me, “How long will you homeschool, YOU ARE S0 STRANGE, what about P.E. , do you give them tests, are they socialized, can you homeschool legally?”

On the seventh day of homeschool my neighbor said to me, “Look at what they’re missing, how long will you homeschool, YOU ARE SO STRANGE!, what about P.E., do you give them tests, are they socialized, do you homeschool legally?”

On the eighth day of homeschool my neighbor said to me, “Why do you do this, look at what they’re missing, how long will you homeschool, YOU ARE SO STRANGE, what about P.E. do you give them tests, are they socialized, do you homeschool legally?”

On the ninth day of homeschool my neighbor said to me, “They’ll miss the prom, why do you do this, look at what they’re missing, how long will you homeschool, YOU ARE SO STRANGE!, what about P.E. do you give them tests, are they socialized, do you homeschool legally?”

On the tenth day of homeschool my neighbor said to me, “What about graduation, they’ll miss the prom, why do you do this, look at what they’re missing, how long will you homeschool, YOU ARE SO STRANGE!, what about P.E., do you give them tests, are they socialized, can you homeschool legally?”

On the eleventh day of homeschool my neighbor said to me, “I could never do that, what about graduation, they’ll miss the prom, why do you do this, look at what they’re missing, how long will you homeschool, YOU ARE SO STRANGE, what about P.E., do you give them tests, are they socialized, can you homeschool legally?”

On the twelfth day of homeschool my neighbor said to me, “Can they go to college, I could never do that, what about graduation, they’ll miss the prom, why do you do this, look at what they’re missing, how long will you homeschool, YOU ARE SO STRANGE, What about P.E., do you give them tests, are they socialized, can you homeschool legally?”

On the thirteenth day of homeschool I thoughtfully replied: “They Can go to college, yes you can do this, they can have graduation, we don’t like the prom, we do it cuz we like it, they are missing nothing, we’ll homeschool forever, WE ARE NOT STRANGE!, We give them P.E., and we give them tests, they are socialized, AND WE HOMESCHOOL LEGALLY!

On the fourteenth day of homeschool my neighbor said to me, “How can I get started, why didn’t you tell me, where do I buy curriculum, when is the next conference, WILL PEOPLE THINK WE’RE STRANGE? I think we can do this, if you will help us, we’ll join a sports team, and we’ll homeschool legally.

a poem that blessed me

I know I'm not full into schooling in this season of my life right now, but it still blessed me being a homeschooling mom to my very being.
I look forward to a fresh start in the new year!
Enjoy!

Twas the Night Before Christmas Homeschool Style

(Author Unknown)

'Twas the night before Christmas and all through the home,

Children were still studying for their test on Rome.

Mom was planning, she had just an hour,

To teach 'one more lesson' before their night shower.

A whole week of vacation, the children were thrilled,

But Mom saw the lesson plans, and the blocks were still filled.

"Can I stop for a day, much less a whole week?"

Just the thought of time off made me shudder and shriek!

Would they remember anything, would they fall behind?
"Lord, I need your help, just give me a sign!!!"

Then out on the sidewalk, I saw my four boys,
And I heard them say, "it's not about toys."

To the neighborhood kids, they explained Jesus' birth,

And how through Jesus, not toys, we gain our worth.

At that point, math and spelling and learning to write,

Meant little to me as I had lost the sight

Of what teaching at home was truly about.

Then I sat at my desk and began to pout.

The pouts turned to sobs, "Lord what have I done?

It's not about grades, but to follow your Son!"

"Please guide me and show me my job is to teach,

and turn them to you, and of Jesus I'll preach."

Now we'll put away books and not open them 'til later,

We'll focus on Jesus, our Lord and Creator.

It's His day and so we will all celebrate,

I'll never mention the words "behind" or "we're late".

So, Thank You, Lord, for blessing me,

With such a great husband and family.

Now homeschooling moms, TURN OUT THE SCHOOL LIGHT!

And, "Happy Christmas To All And To All A Good Night!"

an amazing post that i needed to go back and read!

Please comment your thoughts! I love this post. I love the author of this post.

Why do we need church family?

bits and pieces

I don't like being at the will of my emotions. I've been praying about that. There seems to be a fine line between letting myself grieve and "just be" and letting sin into my life through worry, anger, frustration..... I was so annoyed today. at everything.
We went for our last ultrasound before the baby comes. THE FOOT WAS IN THE WAY! don't know the sex.....wanted to find out. so i guess 1 out of 5 babies will be a surprise...im mostly okay with that. but i wish i knew. wanna paint the baby's room....

I'm going to be spending the next 3 nights at the church.....don't feel like that either....

Basement is coming along, contractor is officially on vacation now. we are on our own now. big things to do yet. tub surround, door installing, painting carpets, electrical......blah

wanna go out and eat a big mac, can't....

liked my sister's post today, she's awesome. love her new house, all her colors, her ideas, wanna copy her....can't.....

my baby is at the door with her boots on, gotta go....

good day

I love my hubby. My sister and I went out for a quick coffee last night and was bragging up our hubbies to eachother. It's amazing how we can be sitting in a pile of mud and every now and then, we'll fling some mud in their faces only to have them gently wipe their faces clean and say, "i love you, what do you need?"
My hubby has been so supportive, steady, and understanding.
He's hard working, selfless and puts his family in his utmost priority.
He's been so faithful in working in our basement, meeting our needs, putting in his all at work.....

Today was a good day. With the basement almost completed and in the finishing stages, the stress is easing off. As much as the pain of Caleb is rolling in, there is a definite healing behind the pain. I sat in His presence today, just pouring out my heart in worship. What a safe place. It was like I was carried to this place where no one could hurt me. Where, even tho I was hurting, I was in the highest level of care. That He was taking care of my hurt.

Before caleb passed, I was having a hard time "just being"
Just being the way I am before my God, my daddy, my father. I had a hard time recieving the unconditional love that God had for me. I've always struggled with having to "preform" "be good" If I'm sinning, he doesn't love me and if I'm "doing well" he loves me. It's been years that God has been trying to unravel this perverted way of thinking in my life.
Now that Caleb is gone, and I'm totally broken. I couldn't even force myself to be someone im not, even if i tried with all my might. I HAVE to be just me. So today, to sit in His presence and JUST BE, was so healing.
I love to praise God in the midst of trials. I love to declare that HE IS STILL WORTHY through hard times.....becuase I know he is.
I love that I can hide away in this "secret place" and know that I am in the hands of a mighty God. Today, I wanted him to know with my own lips that He is worthy, He is good, that I love him, that I trust Him. I really do trust him and his plans for me....for my family.

I know that there are days when I'm really down, sad, even depressed. But God is showing me that that's OKAY. He knows my heart. He knows I still love him and trust him and that it's okay to be sad and that doesn't mean that I'm not strong, or that I don't have a solid enough foundation in Him.
I want to follow him. I want His will.......
I want people to know........HE is WORTHY of our lives......still.....especially when things are dark and dim. Caleb would want that.

on the journey

I'm am starting to use my blog as a place to really get down my feelings.

I would have to say that the shock, the denial is definitly wearing off. I spent the first month after his death just not believing it. "this can't be happening" I would be driving, or doing dishes, or shopping....and just very vigoursly shake my head "NO" I would shake it just out of the blue. If my thoughts turned to Caleb, I would just start involuntary shaking "no".
They have a little display at Caleb's old school in the commons area. A place where they display all the children that have attendended John Dolan School that have passed away. There is a plaque with names and dates, there are pictures of students that have died...........Well, last month, I went there to drop off some things and they showed me this "display".
Caleb's picture was in there, his name was on the plaque (1997-2006) I thought, "what the heck is he in this display for???? with all these other dead kids?????" Why in the world does his name have two years instead of one?????????"
I just stood there, stared at it for a long time, had a tear or two, and shook my head "no" again.....

My friend lost a spouse 9 years ago. she said it took her 5 months to realize that he was never coming back. she shared this with me in my "shock state". I thought sheesh! how long am I going to be numb?? I felt guilty for feeling numb. I thought, maybe I didn't love him enough. Now I realize that i DID.....

The thing about caleb is that his whole life, I stuffed inside. I didn't deal with things, caleb's whole life. The pain and trials of taking care of a severely disabled child was too intense for me to face. As caleb got older, I ended up stuffing more and more. I just couldn't take the pain. I am NOT talking about him dying, getting sick, passing away, him dead now....
I am talking about HIS LIFE on earth.
So now that he's really for truly gone, not only do i have his death to deal with, the loss of him, but to work through 10 years of unresovled issues.......OUCH>>>>>>>>>>>>(insert much pain here)

Before caleb even got sick, 2 weeks before he was admitted to hospital, God started a work in my heart. I was at church and the speaker was talking about parts of your heart that you won't give to God. When God finally broke open that HUGE dam, I cryed about caleb like I never had before. I felt like it was the start of my healing, so therefore, i was very confused when caleb DID die, wondering the timing of God......

thats' it for today.....

Joe's blog

if you wanna picture update on our basement and how joe is doing, visit his blog and check out the progress here.

memories

I'm all mixed up inside as a whole. I'm used to being able to tell what I'm feeling, how I'm doing and pressing forward of the high calling in Jesus....
I know in my heart that God IS carrying me....

Something that is blessing me is the reunion with the Mcleod's. Both sister's commented on my last post and I was so encouraged inside. A light, I ray of hope, knowing I'm not alone....
It's so funny, I can't really describe how I'm feeling.

I was downstairs doing laundry today. for those that don't know, we took possesion of this house which we've been renting for 4 and half years and now own it as of October 6th! Being that we were on number 5, we knew we need to renovate our little 3 bedroom house. So contruction started right on the day the house became ours.
after Caleb passed the end of Oct, joe and I didn't want to even go downstairs. The framing was up and the time and we didn't care to finish it....
Our contractor, who happens to be an elder at our church, graciously backed off and gave a couple of weeks to breathe.
Now.....for 2 weeks solid, we've (I mean Joe) has been go go go with help from guys in the church trying to get it done before our contractor goes on vacation on Dec 15th.
The dry wall is up, the mudding and taping are almost done. It is close to the end......
I sat downstairs and cryed....
It should be a happy time, an exciting time, a good thing......
Looking at our new room, my big closet, our new bathroom......
But I'm so sad about it......
christmas is coming......
I'm sad about that too.
The kids and I made a gingerbread house from scratch yesterday and assembled it today. I should be such a joyous time. But something is missing........
Going through the motions......ballet, soccer, putting up the tree, baking......
it all seems empty
i miss the smell of his stinky little hands
rubbing the top of his head which was all stubbly
Taking his foot splints off after school
laying beside him when he's all tucked in bed
Mr. Caleb man

Picture post

I miss my flat tummy....but I will have one again. growin a baby.......

These girls will be close when they are older. there is so much love between them. My niece and Isaiah
They are inseparable.....

My boys............
This would have been our van.....we applied to the kinsmen and childrens' charity for funding for a wheelchair van. we were approved and were ready to drive it away. Caleb passed away 10 days sooner than we were to take possesion of it.
It was an overwhelming ceremony, recieving 20,000$ from children's charity
At canada day, we were all dressed up. we even had tatoos on our faces

Isaiah loves ballet. she's in the pinky tights
Faith loves......fingerpainting>........herself.........and not paper......
She also would love to learn to drive as soon as possible....
that's all i have in me for now.

THANK YOU

I am sincerely grateful for all you in blog land. even tho it seems kinda unpersonal at times becuase we've never met, I have been so uplifted by your comments.....thank you so much for regularly visiting me to see how i'm doing and my sister's blog too. all the same people comment and it is so nice to know that you have been consistently there for me.....
I don't really feel like "coffee" anyway. i haven't really felt like going out and socializing other than with close family, so this way, i can have the best of both worlds. again i say thank you.
i feel bad that i can't get onto certain private blogs. Jenny, amber, janelle, kim, connie and anyone else that i have missed. I go around to crystal, tanya's, heather's and tina's regulary, but haven't really commented much.
of course, i visit my church family, but they aren't blogging much these days, so i keep checking for updates.
I have been cleaning all day, finished my laundry, bathed my kids, vacuumed and am looking forward to making some christmas tea and relaxing to some intrumental christmas music infront of my nice white christmas tree when the kids are in bed......
one last room to clean........the kitchen.......groan........
i turned my heart towards worship today. it brought me peace.
i really love you guys. I really do appreciate you. thanks for being there. even tho you don't always know what to say, you go that extra mile to let me know you here and your thinking of me. i know many of you pray for us.
i still sometimes, can't believe this really happened.........
i miss him so much.......

kinda grumpy, kinda not, kinda...don't know what!

I am sick of blogging, but not really. i want to go out with friends, but kinda not.
I am excited for christmas, but totally not.
I am totally confused, but sometimes think i have it all together
I care what people think of me. i could give two shits what people are thinking....

I am angry, sad, happy, confused, depressed, excited, numb, annoyed, hyper, all at the same time. I don't really know what else to say. I feel like people think i should just move on. talk about seomthing else. "it's been a whole month you know!...." I wonder what's really in people's hearts. there's this girl at homecare, she took care of Caleb for about 2 years on and off. she's apparently going around homecare saying that "I knew Caleb was sick....I tried to tell her, but I guess she didn't listen to me"........What is her problem anyway, how could she be so shallow? that she would stick such a blame on me to make herself feel better?

I really should n't care....but i do. i wonder how many people think i could have done better, paid more attention.....

Yesterday, today....and forever...Our God never changes

Wow, what up and down days! one day, I feel great, like right now! My house is somewhat in order (more than 2 rooms clean at a time) I am drinking a morning cup of coffee...which is the first time since Caleb. Tastes good! I BOUGHT A WHITE CHRISTMAS TREE!!!!! comes complete with 700 prewired lights! If you know me well, don't fall down....but they are white lights...not rainbow....>GASP!!
I'm ready for change today, ready for God, ready to make room....
Yesterday was another story...

Yesterday morning, I got a call from Sask Abilities council. They said that they had a truck in the area and were on their way to pick up our wheelchair lift in our backyard! I was not prepared for them to take that so soon. In our backyard we have a lift to get Caleb in and out of the house. It was a huge thing...it was so part of Caleb and part of our lives. If that thing ever broke down....we were stuck. Our backyard looks so empty now.....I'm keeping the back blinds closed for now. I don't want to face that today.....I was so sad yesterday.....getting sad writing about this....

Well, without any furthur details on my horrible day yesterday...that was yesterday.
Today is today. I want to put up my tree asap. The kids and I are going to the library. I want to feel normal today. I pray by God's help, that the pain will be replaced by his joy just for today....

I'm getting so big! my belly is sure popping out now. Baby moves so much. I love that. I love being pregnant. I thank God that He has given me the gift of bearing many children.
My kids are so great. Noah is being "noah" these days. (which to those who don't know, that means, bouncy, spinny and unattentive...all backup with a great heart and good intentions) I've had a lot of compassion for him lately. He tries so hard. He has such a good heart. He is such a servant to this family.




We have bugs. We are feeling better, but still contagious. Hopefully, the flu will not show it's ugly face in anyone else. it's been through me, isaiah and faith. if you feel the urge to pray, please do for our health.
blessings all.